Evicting the Nasty Roommate of Rumination

Nora Sophia
3 min readOct 27, 2022

Learn to quell the chaos inside of you to be a better problem solver.

A “problem” is defined as an unwelcome situation. Allegedly, it causes difficulty, stress or doubt. As with much in our lives, definition is everything. If we assign meaning to anything with these labels, isn’t it going to be seen as a “problem”?

What if…

What if we were willing to look upon this unwelcome situation as a grand experience? This is where we begin. Perception is our vision field. Too often we are focusing on one aspect of a challenge rather than looking at it in its entirety. How long do we wait for something to become unwelcome instead of seeing the writing on the wall?

Perhaps you’ve done this in your dating life? Perhaps in business? Perhaps even with loved ones?

We see the foreshadowing, the little yellow flags, these warning signs of more to come, and rather than investigate at that point, we make decor out of the yellow flags. Why? Because we don’t want to see them, we don’t want to believe it, it’s easier to look away than to look upon.

But then…

We avoid it so long the unwelcome situation is staring us in the face and seemingly has moved into our heads and is even borrowing our toothbrush because it’s overstayed its welcome.

Now, we are in rumination mode. Except the rumination feels like anxiety and guess what gets a negative label again? Problem solving. If we’re not aware that our feelings have hijacked our thought processes, we can unwittingly indulge a symptom that feeds on itself like quicksand and has no end. By recognizing the difference between symptoms and productive mental states, we can learn to influence the direction of our thoughts, feelings, and frame of mind.

When anxiety is present and we don’t realize we’re re-experiencing something from the past, anxiety can act as a magnet. Attaching itself to current life issues and thoughts, setting up a snowball effect and an environment begging for rumination.

Here, the left brain perceives anxiety and creates fabled explanations, based on the available evidence. This happens via the left (language) hemisphere of the brain, whose job it is to interpret our perceptions and…

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Nora Sophia

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