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Reclaiming Inner Peace: Discovering The Self-Apology Behind Our Need For External Apologies
The following is an excerpt from my upcoming book, Metaphor: The Art of Weaving Your Life As It Was Always Meant To Be.
Who owes you an apology? And what would it truly mean for you? These questions delve deep into the complexities of human emotions, taking us on a journey that explores forgiveness, self-discovery, and the delicate balance between our expectations and the reality we encounter. It’s a journey that gradually dawns on us — the apology we long for might not be solely about the other person. It’s a reckoning with ourselves, our expectations, and the uncharted territories of self-forgiveness.
Apologies, like sturdy bridges, close the gap between hurt and healing, repairing the fractures in relationships, and igniting the glimmer of reconciliation. We yearn for apologies because they have the power to mend what’s shattered and to soothe the aching wounds deep within us. It’s an innate desire, rooted in our need for validation — a way for our pain to be recognized, and for our feelings to matter. When someone apologizes, it’s as if they’re saying, “Yes, I see your pain. I understand.” Their apology becomes a lifeline that reassures us that we’re not alone in our suffering, that there’s empathy and understanding even in our darkest moments.
